While it may not be a typical festive reflection, the theme of mortality has profoundly resonated with me during this Christmas season.

Recently, I experienced the loss of my dear father-in-law, and a close friend also mourned the death of her father. Both battled prostate cancer for nearly ten years and passed just days apart.

Grieving the loss of loved ones is never easy, but the emphasis on family during Christmas made their departures feel especially harsh.

Despite the sorrow, I was inspired by the courage and practicality both men exhibited in addressing their own mortality. They made arrangements for their absence, which alleviated some burden on their mourning families and allowed them to dictate their own farewells.

Making decisions regarding burial or cremation, or requesting that special people deliver eulogies, might seem trivial, yet without these clear instructions, grieving relatives can face overwhelming uncertainty.

Do not let your loved ones guess your wishes. My friend’s father specified that part of his service take place outdoors, with a view of his cherished sheep and the farm to which he devoted his life. He even selected his farewell song, “Leaving on a Jet Plane” by John Denver.

Many of us, myself included at times, avoid contemplating death and rarely consider how we want our affairs handled in the event of serious illness. We often prioritize living fully over addressing such grim subjects, postponing these conversations until later in life or when we face potential mortality.

However, many deaths occur unexpectedly, leaving little time for preparation. My father passed away suddenly—alive when I left to walk the dogs, and gone by the time I returned.

If you spent the holiday season with family, consider making a New Year’s resolution to clarify your end-of-life wishes and encourage your loved ones to do the same. It’s essential to address any outstanding legal documents and paperwork that can be vital if illness or death occurs.

Establishing a lasting power of attorney gives you control over decisions regarding your health and finances, even if you are no longer able to make those decisions. Furthermore, your will should be revised regularly or following significant life changes, such as marriage or the birth of a child, ensuring it is properly signed by two independent witnesses.

It’s also beneficial to draft a letter of wishes outlining how you’d like specific assets managed, details of your funeral arrangements, and instructions for the care of pets. While this letter isn’t legally binding or a substitute for a will, it serves as a valuable guide for your loved ones.

Life insurance may not be for everyone, and many workplaces offer death benefits, but having coverage can provide a financial cushion for your family during challenging times, aiding in mortgage payments or covering household expenses after your passing.

Rev. Matthew Hutton shared insights with the Sunday Times regarding end-of-life planning, stating, “In a significant sense, death is not the end, as the grieving process continues for those you leave behind. However, you can ease their burden by organizing your affairs.”

As we approach the conclusion of this year, I want to emphasize a vital reminder for 2025: unlike other forms of cancer, there is no standard screening program for prostate cancer, meaning you must take the initiative to discuss testing with your doctor.

If you are over 50, a black man over 45, or have a family history of prostate cancer, your risk may be elevated. Testing for prostate cancer is less invasive than commonly perceived; a simple blood test, accessible at your GP’s office for free, is the best indicator.

Early detection can save your life or provide valuable time with your family. Both my father-in-law and my friend’s father were fortunate to diagnose their cancer early, allowing them to enjoy precious years with their grandchildren.

Johanna Noble is away